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Wedding Speeches and Toasts

wedding speechWedding speeches are an important part of any wedding reception. Unfortunately, most people dread writing wedding speeches and do not prepare adequately.

However, if you follow some time tested methods, writing a wedding speech is an easy task.It is a matter of following the proper wedding speech order, brainstorming some personal stories and structuring your speech in the correct format. If you structure the wedding speech correctly you will find that delivering the speech with confidence is almost a given.

First of all you should be aware that wedding speeches are usually delivered in a traditional order. In most weddings, the father of the bride will be the first speaker to be introduced by the Master of Ceremonies. The father of the bride will largely focus his speech on thanking his guests and say some kind words for the bride. He will end the speech with a toast to the bride and groom.
The second speech will be delivered by the groom. The groom’s speech is largely a collection of thank you’s where he shows appreciation for all the people who made the wedding day a success.

The final speech is delivered by the best man. Traditionally, this is a humorous speech where the groom is “roasted.” The Best Man speech is followed with a toast to the bridesmaids.

Theses days you will find that most weddings also include speeches by the bride, maid of honor or the mother of the groom.  However, traditional weddings only have the three wedding speeches delivered by the father of the bride, groom and best man.

The first step in writing a quality wedding speech is reading through some speech samples. You want to get a feel for the structure of each type of speech. For example, if you’re writing the groom speech, you want to read some groom speech examples before you start brainstorming ideas.  You will generally find that wedding speeches are structured with three main parts.

First of all, you will express gratitude and thank the people that you need to acknowledge. In this part of the speech, you want to make sure that you brainstorm all of the people that you want to thank. Forgetting that Aunt Edna has slaved away in the kitchen for the last two weeks can be a major mistake. People want to be recognized for their contributions and thanking them during the wedding speech is crucial.

The main body of the wedding speech will usually be a short story or anecdote about the person that you want to honor. For example, if you’re writing the best man speech you would brainstorm some humorous stories about the groom. However, you should make sure that your stories are relevant to the wedding. Make sure that the anecdote is focused on love, relationships or a significant characteristic that you wish to highlight. Stories about how the bride and groom met or fell in love would be more relevant than a random funny story about the groom losing tickets to the Superbowl.  Similarly, you might wish to focus on a certain, defining characteristic of the person you wish to acknowledge. If everyone describes the bride as having a big heart you would want to tell a story about how she always brought home stray animals or some other story that shows her loving nature.

The last part of your wedding speech will be toast the person or group that you wish to toast. Every speech is different with some people choosing to toast the bride, bridesmaids or the father of the bride.  Most people like to use a formal toast which shares a little wisdom about love and marriage. Another idea is to use a famous quote from a well known writer.

Once you have brainstormed and written a quality wedding speech, you will focus your attention on delivering the speech with confidence. You can have the greatest content in the world but if you nervously mumble through your speech it won’t matter because the audience will be focused on your poor delivery.

It is important to practice your wedding speech several times before you actually stand up at the podium. Since your wedding toast is only 3-5 minutes in length no one should have any excuse for not practicing the speech at least a dozen times prior to the wedding day.  You can record your speech using your smart phone and listen for how it sounds to the naked ear.

Practicing your speech several times will also improve your memory of the speech content. Although it is not essential that you memorize the wedding speech, it is an added bonus that will help you with a strong delivery.  You can always have your cue cards on stage with you in case you forget your lines.

Delivering a speech with confidence involves having a strong body language and a strong voice.  There is a huge difference between slouching and standing up tall when it comes to vocal projection.  Similarly, many people have a tendency to mumble or speak too fast which are characteristics of nervous or inexperienced speakers.

As you can see wedding speeches follow a simple formula. If you are willing to follow this formula, your success is almost guaranteed. However, wedding speeches left to the last minute are a surefire route to anxiety and embarrassment.

Most people know that it is easiest to start a wedding speech from a sample speech. Why start writing from scratch when 80% of the content will be similar to pre-written speeches? For this reason, we’ve created hundreds of professionally written wedding speeches that you can use to write you very own masterpiece. Simply choose the speech type from the list below and you can cut hours off of your wedding preparations meaning you will have more time to soak in the wedding festivities.

Best Man Speeches

Find out information about how to deliver a funny and touching Best Man Speech.

Father of the Bride Speeches

Find the perfect words for your beautiful daughter with a dazzling father of the bride speech.

Maid of Honor Speeches

Follow these maid of honor speech examples to pay tribute to your best friend or sister.

Wedding Speech For The Groom

If you want to impress your new in law’s and find the perfect words for your new bride, these groom speeches are perfect.