Only professional speechwriters enjoy writing wedding speeches. For most dads, their experience with public speaking is limited to a Thanksgiving day prayer.
So how do you overcome the challenges and deliver a touching and unique father of the bride speech? I’ll break down the different elements that make up a successful father of the bride toast.
Tone of the Speech
The tone of the father of the bride speech should border on being wildly optimistic. No time to be a “Debbie downer” especially about the institution of marriage. Even if you think that marriage is painful, you need to portray a sense of optimism. Secondly, you have to come across as being positive about your new son in law.
There is a typical father of the bride speech structure. You can follow a speech template if you want to get a better idea of what it is supposed to look like.
The structure is like your blueprint and it’s most important that you write the speech in a methodical fashion. The structure includes:
a) welcome the guests
b) touching words about your daughter
c) welcoming the groom to the family
d) making a toast to the newlyweds.
As you can see there is little creative writing. Most of the speech is just standard protocol.
How to Speak About Daughter
Father Of The Bride Speeches are about your special and unique relationship with your daughter. You shouldn’t set out to mock her. Commonly, men confuse the fact that wedding humor is generally confined to the best man. Thus, your job is not to make the audience laugh. In many ways this makes your job more difficult as you have to write in a more heartfelt manner and you can’t hide behind humor. For touching stories you can talk about how you felt when you first laid eyes on your baby girl or when you discovered her unique personality traits as a child.
You will also be speaking on behalf of the bride’s mother. In modern wedding receptions, the mother also speaks. This means that you want to make sure not to overlap your content with your wife.
Finally, toast is to the bride and groom.
You can see an example of a father of the bride speech that you can use a template.